Do you hold yourself back from wearing a certain outfit or participating in an activity you would love doing until you lose more weight? Does the thought of how others may be judging your body ever hold you back? How do you stop worrying what others think of your body and live your best life?
This is a conversation I’ve had with some of my new clients. It’s something that breaks my heart when I hear it. We shouldn’t let what others might think of us (or even our own insecurities) stop us from doing all that we’d like to do in our lives!
Here’s 5 ways to stop worrying about what others think of your body, and live your best life!
HOW TO STOP WORRYING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOUR BODY (AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!)
1) Start small and have fun.
It’s understandable you may be nervous to try something new. Start small. Take baby steps and begin to branch out. Wear one outfit you may not have thought you “should” wear before. Participate in one activity you used to be worried about doing. Have fun! Taking baby steps often snowballs into even more confidence… and living a fuller and richer life!
2) Love and accept yourself where you are right now. We can’t “hate” our way to thinness, health or fitness.
First and foremost, we can’t “hate” our bodies to thinness or good health. It simply doesn’t work that way. In fact, usually when we try and use inner shame as a way to try and motivate us to workout or eat a healthier diet, it backfires and often leads to yo-yo dieting and binge eating.
3) Remind yourself that genes impact much of our body shapes.
Just as genes determine the color of our eyes or hair, genes also impact our body sizes. We are all unique! People naturally come in different shapes and sizes! Yes, we can always modify our bodies to an extent, with diet and exercise, but many times our bodies have a natural weight range where our body feels most comfortable. Start to associate yourself with the “health at every size” movement. Remind yourself that YOUR healthy weight may be different than the “one-size-fits-all standards” found online or in magazines. And that is ok!
4) People are a judgmental species, and any comments you hear have more to do with the person saying it than you.
The fact is that people are, by nature, judgmental. Each of us looks at the world and sees experiences from our own lens and viewpoint. Because of this, people are always judging everyone else. Not that it means we are all negatively looking at people, but it helps to realize what we hear from others often has nothing to do with us personally. When people make negative comments, they are projecting their own feelings onto you.
5) We only have one life. Live it to the fullest.
There’s no time like the present. And we only have one life… live it to the fullest! There’s something so fulfilling when we can be unapologetically ourselves, and not holding ourselves back from doing what we truly want to do.
A friend sent this quote to me recently and it stuck with me. “The goal is to die with memories, not dreams.”
Start making memories.
As you begin to feel stronger about your own body image, it will become easier to ignore others’ comments and find strength in yourself.
Have something you’d like to try that you’ve been holding yourself back from doing. Commit to trying it this week. Let me know how you do.